Tight abs. Tall enough to touch the sky. And too funny. Those have made interesting dating experiences for me and sparked a few love poems too. But when it comes down to real life decisions — pause a minute. Matter of fact, close your eyes so you can think straight.
You can’t build a life with a set of sexy abs.
You need more. Some substance. You need some never give up-ability. Some realness. In fact, the real thing requires a whole lot more than just a good looking man with that penetrating glare. That never give up love requires more than a good look.
Dating sometimes plays a cruel trick on your heart. If you don’t know better, it’s easy to start following the designer package instead of the real person.
Dating the style or the spirit?
Men who date a look instead of the style of a woman’s soul, the curve of her conversation and that extra spark in her spirit are preparing for another heartache. Likewise, women who date the muscles and the money instead of the real man are preparing for the same thing. Cause success in the gym is not a sign for being able to love you the way you need to be loved.
You’ve got to get beyond the look and get to the real person to even stand a chance for the long haul. Cause in the end, if you want your dating experiences to eventually turn into something real, we’ll have to take the fairytale goggles.
Here’s my love confession:
I want a lover…
…with an emotional core that’s strong enough to survive a storm. I want a lover unafraid to
- grow up,
- grow old,
- grow stronger with you.
I want a lover who remembers the love between us when we’re not together. And that surface look can’t give me that. But mindset and heart condition can.
Don’t get me wrong we all want some eye candy. In fact, it’s the package that sparks the conversation in the first place. But let’s go deeper please. For the sake of your future marriage and sensitive soul — go deeper.
aka Lady J @ HotPrayers.com
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