I Could Care Less About Who Becky Is
That’s old news by now. This, however, is dedicated to you, not becky’s good hair. And we’re not dealing with infidelity undertones in the song that made the phrase so relevant. I’m concerned about self image. Cause I’m done with the idea that there’s something wrong with this kinky, twisted, nappy hair lifestyle I’ve been living for decades.Continue Reading
Tight abs. Tall enough to touch the sky. And too funny. Those have made interesting dating experiences for me, and sparked a few love poems too. But when it comes down to real life decisions — pause a minute. Matter of fact, close your eyes, so you can think straight.
Here’s my love confession:
You can’t build a life with a set of sexy abs.
You need more. Some substance. You need some never give up-ability. Some realness. In fact, the real thing requires a whole lot more than just a good looking man with that penetrating glare. That never-give-up love requires more than a good look.
Dating sometimes plays a cruel trick on your heart. If you don’t know better, it’s easy to start following the designer package instead of the real person.
Dating the style or the spirit?
Regardless of sex, we’re all dealing with the same problems. Men who date a look instead of the style of a woman’s soul, the curve of her conversation and that extra spark in her spirit are preparing for another heartache themselves.
Likewise, women who date the muscles and the money instead of the real man are preparing for the same thing. Cause success in the gym is not a sign for being able to love you the way you need to be loved – for the long haul.
Got to get beyond the look and get to the real person to even stand a chance for long haul love. Cause in the end, if you want your dating experiences to eventually turn into something real, we’ll have to take the fairytale goggles off and fall in love with the truth. Cause even if it hurts at first, the truth will set you free to be available for the right kind of love when it comes along.
I want a lover…
…with an emotional core that’s strong enough to survive a storm. I want a lover unafraid to
- grow up,
- grow old,
- grow stronger with you.
I want a lover who remembers the love between us when we’re not together. And that surface look can’t give me that. But mindset and heart condition can. And since that’s what I want, it’s also what I’m offering which starts with me working on me.
Don’t get me wrong, we all want some eye candy. In fact, it’s the package that sparks the conversation in the first place. But let’s go deeper, please. For the sake of your future marriage and sensitive soul — go deeper.
Lady J @ HotPrayers.com
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